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Heaven on Earth: A Handbook for Parents of Young Children

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“Our children are, in the words of Kahlil Gibran, the gift of Life’s longing for Itself. They run toward Life, arms open, and Life loves Itself through their small bodies. Pressing themselves into the sand, sifting dirt, watching an inchworm measure a branch, reaching toward the black cat, who evades, then looks at them through inscrutable green eyes...it is their biological imperative to reach toward Life, and we, their caregivers, must structure the way in which Life reaches back, the way they are touched in return.” ― Sharifa Oppenheimer As we see a shift of old forms that were once the foundations of our daily lives, parents―who must prepare the next generation to meet the changing world―have more questions today than ever before. Although our cultural values and family structures may change, it is the atmosphere in the home that continues to form the foundation of a child’s life. In Heaven on Earth, parent and educator Sharifa Oppenheimer reveals how parents can make the home environment warm, lively, loving, and consistent with their highest ideals. Heaven on Earth balances a theoretical understanding of child development with practical ideas, resources, and tips that can transform family life. Readers will learn how to create the regular life rhythms needed to establish a foundation for learning; how to design indoor play environments that allow children the broadest development of skills; and how to create outdoor play spaces that encourage vigorous movement and a wide sensory palette. Through art, storytelling, and the festival celebrations, this book is an invaluable guide to building a “family culture” based on the guiding principle of love―a culture that supports children and encourages the free development of each unique soul. Sharifa Oppenheimer offers a gift from the heart. Heaven on Earth is a practical, inspiring resource that brings the author's informed, intuitive understanding of young children into the heart of the home.

256 pages, Paperback

First published September 1, 2006

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Sharifa Oppenheimer

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Sharifa Oppenheimer was the founding teacher of the Charlottesville Waldorf School, Virginia, where she taught kindergarten for twenty-one years and served as day care director of the early-childhood program. She has helped develop new teachers through teacher-training programs at Sunbridge College in New York State, and at Rudolf Steiner College near Sacramento as a master teacher offering practicum and internship opportunities. She has written many articles on Waldorf education, helping the parents of her students create supportive home environments. Recently she initiated a home-based kindergarten program, The Rose Garden. Sharifa is the mother of three grown sons, who were educated in the Waldorf tradition. She lives in an enchanted forest in Virginia.

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32 reviews
August 14, 2016
Parts of this were too prescriptive for me. Don't buy plastic toys for your kids, for example (she recommends corn cobs instead). I know they are just suggestions, but she puts them forth like they are the one right way to parent.

I did, however, find a few suggestions that I have incorporated in my own home. One was what to say when kids say they're bored. You can say, "Good! That will give you a chance to think, which will help you come up with ideas. Let me know what you come up with!"
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September 24, 2009
I LOVED this book! Definitely on the hippie/crunch side, but so many good ideas and no lecturing. I'm excited to put many of her ideas into practice, and I especially like the part about how doing daily chores (that are considered drudgery) with love can be a wonderful way of showing your children you love them. So much good advice about playing outside and using imagination, too. Must read!
Heather, this is definitely one for your *someday* list!
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25 reviews30 followers
February 23, 2016
I'm walking away from this book with a greater understanding of the value of open-ended play and how I can allow my kids to be kids and learn through experience. There's a lot that I already have incorporated into our family structure and a lot to still incorporate. It's good for a type-A like myself to be reminded to live in the moment instead of living in my to-do lists. And I want to not intrude on their imaginative world where I impose my adult views on their experience.
The author and I differed on many points, yet I gleaned so much inspiration that it is well-worth the time to read. Highly recommended!
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January 10, 2013
This book came highly reviewed (as one of her top two parenting books) by a blog that I really like ( my link text) so I was expecting a lot out of it. And while yes, I did gain some inspiration (particularly related to consciously developing a family rhythm and culture), the book itself felt so idealized and elitist that I was a bit turned off. In order to fully implement everything she says every kid should have, you'd really have to live in the country and be rich. For example, in the "Outdoor Play" chapter, she says that every kid really should have some kind of hill to play on. She recommends importing several loads of dirt into an unused area of your yard if you don't already have a natural hill. That's all well and good if you have oodles of money and an acre of land but really not practical for the vast majority of parents, particularly those of us striving to parent our children in the city/suburbs. I'm trying to get to the essences of what she's saying (kids needs lots of space/time to play outside, etc., etc.) but it's hard to see through the elitism. Here's another example - in the clothing section, she makes some very sensible suggestions (which I totally agree with) for simple, comfortable clothes for kids but in the Appendix just suggests one source, Hannah Andersson. Who can afford to cloth their kids entirely in Hannah Andersson? Anyway, enough ranting. There's definitely a lot of useful info in this book but you'll just have to get through some of the other stuff. And if you're a parent who finds it hard not to feel inadequate when reading parenting books, definitely don't read this one because I think Ihave a pretty thick skin but I'm still finding myself saying, "Ellie hasn't does any modeling with real clay yet, will she be scarred forever?" (Eric - do you experience any of this kind of attitude at your Waldorf school?)
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February 6, 2016
I really liked the parts about establishing a family rhythm and discipline... disliked the Jesus commentary, and while the book is called "Heaven on Earth" I thought it was unnecessarily and somewhat awkwardly inserted into her commentary.

The writing style is overall... terribly flowery. So while the concepts were good, reading it was a bit painful.
405 reviews
November 14, 2008
Extremely helpful in terms of ideas on how to set rhythms and seasonal celebrations - as well as ideas on how to optimize play spaces (both indoors and out) for children. However, I thought the discipline sections were kind of harsh.
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April 13, 2018
Sharifa Oppenheimer’s parenting handbook is a result of years of experience and knowledge as a Waldorf instructor and as a mother of 3. Written in the context of the changing landscape of family dynamics, the book focuses on becoming more thoughtful about how to run a household with the developing brain of children in mind. Filled with research studies and practical advice, this book aims to help parents a family culture that feels like “heaven on earth.”

How children learn

A child learns through sensory experience, gross and fine motor movements, and imitation. Learning is viewed a lifelong event in which the body, emotions, and the mind all come into play. (See Growth Mindset) From the time of conception, the fetus already starts to learn from his mother’s emotional state and the hormones she releases throughout the pregnancy.

The book outlines and elaborates on the elements of creating an environment for optimal brain development in children:

1. Plenty of water to drink
2. Adequate protein
3. Regular home rhythms
4. Plenty of time for play
5. Plenty of time for movement
6. Plenty of time for stories
7. Plenty of time for conversations

The child imitates our “outer” and “inner” gestures

The home should be set up to encourage imitation of adult activities. That is because adults are considered as templates of children on how it is to be human and whatever the child sees, will be copied. They just don’t imitate our “outer” gestures but also our “inner” ones. That is, how we move with purpose and conviction. For parents, this could be an onerous task because we might feel that we are imperfect human beings but the author assures us that:

"Love is perfect, and also perfectly reliable. So, with all the imperfections that occur in a day, I always relied on Love, knowing in the end all my transgressions (against my own ideal, by the way, not theirs!) were washed clean by Love's great generosity.”

A parent’s central task

"We offer the possibility that their future life of thought will be imbued with feeling, and with the ability to bring this heartfelt thought into action in the world. This integration of heart forces, thinking capacity, and the ability to act with confidence is essential as we move together into our new century and create the world anew, day by day.”

The author emphasizes throughout the book to look inward and reflect through writing on a journal thoughts, ideas, and questions. Self-awareness is a noted quality a parent must develop.

"You are the foundation of your child's entire life. The way you handle yourself when his emotions run high can be a bridge for him whereby he discovers the fundamentals: problems exist, they are challenging, and they can be resolved to the benefit of everyone involved.”

"The quality of our family culture pivots entirely upon the awareness we bring to it. Let us bring as much consciousness to this process as we can."

The reason being, the central task of a parent is to guide the path in answering the fundamental question, “Who am I?” And a guides, parents are to set firm boundaries and inner rhythms wherein children have freedom within these containments (what is a gentler term for this?).

One way of finding balance and harmony in one’s household is to simplify areas in our lives from material possessions to more abstract ones including commitments and daily activities.

Self-care before childcare

As the primary role models of the child, self-care is a must for parents. "Your children need a role model who knows how to find joyful connection with himself and the world.” When you show your enthusiasm in doing activities that you love, such as playing the guitar or going to the museum, it will spill over.

"This is a huge question, and we can only accomplish the task piece by piece, with love as our guide, our strength and our respite.” It’s a continuous process of refining our inner and outer selves. Better to be consistent than perfect.

A happy and harmonious child begets a beginnings of a well-adjusted adult. if we just meet this in the short-term perspective and give in to all their whims, there will also be short-term results and long-term repercussions

A special note on media and technology

Research findings cited by the author discourages children to be exposed to television and other sources of media (such as gadgets) for the following reasons:
* more time spent watching television means less time doing movements that are critical to the developing neural networks in the brain
* the movements seen on screen are often fast-paced and exaggerated, the subtlety of pausing to appreciate small wonders such as the rain falling outside the windows are not shown
* because children do not usually watch while an adult is around, they don’t experience the whole language experience wherein they can converse with another person
* it could affect the stimulus-response pattern of a child because if the child doesn’t understand what’s happening onscreen, he won’t have the opportunity to question why (unless there is an adult present who can process what is happening)
* story plots can be fast-paced and often the problem is solved within a span of twenty minutes, which is not an imitation of real life where there are plenty of twists and sometimes it takes a long period of time before issues are resolved
* the exposure to violence can desensitize children from pain and suffering, lead to aggressiveness, and make them perceive the world as a mean and dangerous place

The author also added in her classroom observations about children who are exposed to too much media:
* they have difficulty with collaborative play
* a hard time thinking creatively, they have difficulty with “anything can be anything”
* they tend to move in a jerky fashion

How she managed with keeping her 3 boys media-free:

"I would never have survived with the media in our life! I was far too busy to deal with the whining discontent the media creates in children! Because I relied entirely on my children's innate capacity to create, imagine, be active, and entertain themselves, they did exactly that. They never came begging for my attention, wanting to be entertained. How could I, a dull old grown-up, compare to their free-flying imaginative world?”

For a more laid-back style of parenting, check out Bringing Up Bebe.
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60 reviews3 followers
June 17, 2014
Through my research on child development (I'm a high school teacher, but a first-time mom) I have become extremely interested in Waldorf education. I'd never even heard of it until I started reading books like Simplicity Parenting and You Are Your Child's First Teacher. I guess it's not as nationally popular as the better-known Montessori education. And while Heaven on Earth does not explicitly say it is a Waldorf-inspired book, it is; and it is wonderful!

For families that have not yet found their rhythm, this book would be a valuable asset to your library. It has suggestions for daily routines, annual routines, seasonal festivals, birthday celebrations, and other ways families can spend time and make memories together. There are also extremely informative suggestions for how to set up your children's indoor and outdoor play spaces to encourage maximum sensory and texture experiences (natural elements, freedom of movement, encouragement of imagination, etc.), explanations of the stages of child play as they age, descriptions of types of books to read with your children that will foster their natural curiosity and development, suggestions for ways to incorporate art into your child's play, and a focus on how everything you do will become a blueprint for your child's rhythms, behavior, and emotional health. They learn through imitation, after all, so we must be mindful that our children are always learning from us.

The text is especially helpful, too, for quick references because it has boxes of summarized information on most of the pages. So, you can read in depth when you have more time, and refer back to the boxes for a quick reminder of the key points.

This truly is a handbook as the title suggests, and I highly recommend it for any parent who is interested in a holistic approach to child rearing.
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10 reviews
January 28, 2013
This was a great handbook for parents of children in the 4 and older age range. Filled with lots of great ideas for craft, play, festival celebrations, and parenting in general. I lost focus in the book from time to time as my child is still under 2 and many of the activities/ideas did not apply yet to us. Furthermore, the author talks about creating a utopia of sorts in the home for the child-- she was incredibly idealistic and sometimes elitist. Any extremist sort of viewpoint on things (no sugar under any circumstances, no tv under any circumstances) leaves me wary of wanting to fully adopt her recommendations. She also wrote the book at a time in her life when, at least it sounded like, all of her children were grown up and out if the house. I think she looks back at her days of parenting very fondly, which is great, but I think she forgets the need of practicality sometimes. If you are able to look beyond all of that, you will still get a lot out of the book. I read it on my kindle but plan on purchasing to have in the house for ideas for activities when my children are older.
12 reviews
July 28, 2011
I really liked this book! It goes along with things I think about parenting anyway, and things that are being ignored by our mainstream culture. Lots of good, practical ideas about incorporating rhythm into kids' lives, making handmade toys, dealing with social pressures, etc. I'm reading it for the second time (checked it out from the library again) and I'm glad I did. When she says young children, I really think it can apply to anyone through elementary school age. She is definitely coming from a Waldorf perspective, which I disagree with on a religious level (and on a philosophical level as well) but there is still a bunch of good stuff in here, even for someone who isn't totally into Waldorf education.

My favorite quote: Our young children still have one foot in the Eternal, in Heaven. We can join them there, if we give ourselves enough time. p 66
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September 24, 2009
A LOVELY guide for anyone interested in incorporating Waldorf principles into home life - or those who simply want to take a natural approach to parenting. Filled with practical tips for parents on handling everything from birthday parties, to bedtime routine, to storytime. What really sets this book apart from the others is Oppenheimer's gentle and loving tone, and her long history as a Waldorf teacher and mother of 3 grown boys. She even includes a few recipes and loads of resources for crafts, children's books, and more.
11 reviews
June 22, 2008
I absolutely loved this book. The only reason for the four star rating is because due to my Christian belief, I didn't like the new age type thinking that went along with some of the ideas. But, that aside, if you can read with a take or toss fashion, you will find this booking very inspiring. It follows the Waldorf way of teaching, which is very natural minded. Many great ideas for leading our children into a creative way of thinking.
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39 reviews
May 7, 2009
This book is well-written and has a wonderful format (meaning I only skimmed the parts of the actual text that I really wanted to read and enjoyed all of her "high points" in the margins. The author has some really good points about getting back to basics raising our children, especially the little ones. I didn't agree with her on everything, for example, bedtime snacks and play spaces. Still, it gave me a few more things to think about in my own child-rearing philosophy.
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153 reviews13 followers
January 29, 2010
I read all the part that were applicable to Aidan's age. There were some good ideas in here that I am incorporating into our life, but nothing huge. Our new bedtime ritual includes the use of a candle, as she suggests, as do our blessings at meal time. Aidan loves it, of course (especially when we blow it out and the "Saaamoke" appears). I've incorporated some other ideas about using less electronic equipment (bought a carpet sweeper and kid sized broom) and some other minor suggestions.
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April 9, 2018
It's a good book. It deals with kids and how to help them with their own lives. Inspiring kids and giving credit to their imaginations and desires.
I loved it so much and found useful information thru out the book. I gave it to my Granddaughter as she is raising two of my Great-grandsons. I want the best for them. And, for my Grandaughter as well. This book helps moms be themselves by enriching a mom's own gift toward her children.
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August 22, 2008
I really like this Waldorf book. It's not too over-the-top that I feel guilty about having plastic toys in my home or compelled to buy a huge stash of playsilks, but the author gives a lot of practical, heartfelt information on everything from daily rhythms and seasonal celebrations to creative play and discipline ideas. It also has a great healthy cake recipe. I recommend it for all parents.
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July 31, 2009
This would be a great book for first time parents, or parents who want to add magic and wonder to their children's lives but haven't figured out how. For me, well, it was nothing new. It has wonderful ideas about rhythms, celebrations, storytelling, outdoor play, and arts and crafts. I think I will be passing this one on to someone who could use it more than I...
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704 reviews
January 26, 2011
Last week I had a, "My son is ready for kindergarten" moment. At times he seems bored and other times he's acting out quite a bit. I've been perusing parenting books that have been on my to-read list for a while. This book shares Waldorf philosophy and activities. It's one I'll use some from and go back to again.
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September 16, 2010
This was a very thoughtful and well written book on her experience as a teacher and the Waldorf philosophy.

The chapters are well laid out and the personal stories make it a great read.

I recommend this book to anyone looking for further parenting view points as well as insight into the Waldorf philosophy.
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368 reviews4 followers
May 12, 2011
LOVE this book so far. Think I'm going to have to order a copy. I love the Waldorf-style of learning, and this book does an excellent job outlining Waldorf concepts, building a family culture and projects.

Done. The last half was every bit as good as the first half. Going to order this-- I took 6 pages of notes and think it would be a good reference.
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23 reviews
June 16, 2011
This book has wonderful ideas for families with young children. The author is a Waldorf teacher, but her ideas are specific for the home. Daily and weekly rhythms (schedule), imagination, family culture, and celebrating festivals were the parts of this book that were most helpful to me. It is easy to get busy with practical living and forget the play and magic of childhood.
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29 reviews3 followers
November 5, 2012
Although some of these ideas are totally unrealistic in my opinion (making corn cob toys and the indoor sandbox come to mind), I loved this book for the ideas and approach to raising outdoors-focused, healthy, and hearty children. I read it on Kindle but wish I'd done a hard copy since I bookmarked so many ideas!
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January 17, 2014
An excellent resource. While this is technically Waldorf, I thought it was more accessible than a lot of Waldorf books and ideas. Just a great book for helping you establish a calm, centered household for your child(ren). Also really encourages you to get into the rhythm of the year and celebrate the seasons.
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March 17, 2010
This book is always referenced in blogs that talk about Waldorf in the home. I would really like to finish reading it someday, but since it's an ILL, I have to send it back. I really like what I read so far.
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June 10, 2010
Too nature/earth focused for me, but has great ideas to get me thinking about how to be more creative and imaginative with Beck. The knowledge that kids are completely imitative has resonated with me and I've already noticed how what I'm doing makes a difference in what he's doing.
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June 24, 2012
This book is full of so many great ideas, that it is worth owning. The re-readability on it is great, and the actual writing style flows very nicely. I felt completely inspired by this work, and imagine I will be so again, many times throughout my children's very young childhood.
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August 31, 2013
This book was full of great ideas to actually implement a Waldorf style of parenting that is more realistic for parents in our society. Alot less overwhelming than alot of similar books. I am glad I purchased it so I can reference over the next few years.
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244 reviews2 followers
October 31, 2013
Heard interesting things about this one so I grabbed it from the library. Interesting and inspiring ideas for a Waldorf lifestyle. Loved that they put the notes in the margin for the reader! Very helpful.
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November 19, 2013
Good Waldorf resource. I would like to read this again when my son is 3 since a lot of the suggestions focused on the 3-7 age range (though many more were all encompassing like advice on creating a family rhythm).
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January 27, 2016
My favorite book on early childhood parenting/educating. Both philosophical and practical, it is one of the books that convinced me that Waldorf was for me. I highly recommend this book for anyone with toddlers, preschoolers or kindergartners.
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