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A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara
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Fuck this book.

And it started out so well! The writing is actually gorgeous. I can see why many, many people like this book. Really, Hanya Yanagihara knows how to use language. Unfortunately, the story she told was not worthy of it. The longer I read this book, the more I dreaded reading it, the worse my feelings got as I read, and the more I hated it for existing. Then I read a bunch of interviews by her and hated the book even more.

The long and short of it is that this book is nothing but misery porn, on purpose. (Here's a Vulture interview where she talks about the inspiration for writing the book to create a book version of ombré cloth, which if you're not familiar, by the time you get to the end is pitch black. Yeah, let's make art that will stain our souls!!!!!)


This book.

Nothing in life is positive, there is only human suffering, true connection is impossible, predators will always find and ruin truly good people, everything is evil, the people who love you are not enough to save you, and your happiness will turn to ashes in your mouth. The End.

Fuck. This. Book.

There is a lot more that I could say about this book but I don't think I have enough time or space. Other people have criticized more articulately the implications of the way Yanagihara treats her gay characters, who exist seemingly only to suffer (while paradoxically others have praised it as the great gay novel). She also stated in several other interviews her desire to write a character so broken he couldn't be fixed, which she accomplishes in her protagonist Jude. Some have called this a melodrama, and that seems accurate. Everything is over the top, but stated in such bald and beautiful prose that it doesn't feel that way at the time. Instead, these larger than life events are made to seem trite and commonplace. Yes, there are bad priests in the Catholic church. Yes, the church covered this up. Do I think it's likely that an *entire abbey* (the whole thing!) full of Franciscans (the most peaceable and loving sect in Catholicism) would not only participate in child molestation, but condone it openly? Hell no*. One more ridiculous thing in this book on top of another. If it's unlikely and causes Jude lots of pain, just put it in this book!

*UPDATE 5/23/24: I am about three condescending comments away from closing my comments on this review altogether, but specifically please stop telling me that systemic abuse exists in the Catholic church, I KNOW IT EXISTS AND IT IS BAD. My point in referencing this is that it was just one more thing on top of everything else ridiculously implausible in this book that is taken way too far, and thus makes any eliciting of emotion impossible for me. I get that people like this book and it's their baby or whatever, but my not liking this book in no way harms you, a person who did like it. Stop condescending to me, thanks!

The real deal breaker for me was when I paused midway through the novel to read an interview where Yanagihara stated her criticism of psychiatry as a way to treat mental illness. The implication that some people are too broken to help and we should just let them die is so, so harmful, and in no way does it help to eradicate the stigma against mental illness in this country. We should not be telling "broken" people it's okay to die. We should be telling them they are not alone in their suffering, and help them find ways to cope with their illnesses and traumas. I will admit I checked out of the book then, and it was only a matter of time before I gave up and spoiled myself on the rest of it, so I wouldn't have to torture myself mentally any further.

Glad I did, because the end of this book is a big rusty nail up the butt.

This one from the London Review of Books is my favorite review of the book I've read so far. Let me quote my favorite part:
"He wishes he too could forget, that he too could choose never to consider Caleb again. Always, he wonders why and how he has let four months – four months increasingly distant from him – so affect him, so alter his life. But then, he might as well ask – as he often does – why he has let the first 15 years of his life so dictate the past 28."

The answer, of course, is that it’s Yanagihara’s design. That’s why it’s good to know that Jude is entirely her concoction, not a figure based on testimony by survivors of child rape, clinical case studies or anything empirical. I found Jude an infuriating object of attention, but resisted blaming the victim. I blame the author.

A Little Life has received some ecstatic reviews. The most intriguing of these is the novelist Garth Greenwell’s in the Atlantic, which argues that it’s the long-awaited ‘great gay novel’: ‘It engages with aesthetic modes long coded as queer: melodrama, sentimental fiction, grand opera,’ he writes. ‘By violating the canons of current literary taste, by embracing melodrama and exaggeration and sentiment, it can access emotional truths denied more modest means of expression.’ Perhaps I’m in thrall to current literary taste, but the only character in A Little Life who seems possessed of anything like ‘emotional truths’ or a sense of irony, the only supporting player in this elaborately ethnically diverse cast who doesn’t seem like a stereotypical middle-class striver plucked out of 1950s cinema, is JB. He’s temporarily ushered out of the narrative after he says to Jude: ‘You like always being the person who gets to learn everyone else’s secrets, without ever telling us a single fucking thing? … Well, it doesn’t fucking work like that, and we’re all fucking sick of you.’ JB’s also the one hooked on crystal meth. What real person trapped in this novel wouldn’t become a drug addict?

I think what makes the most angry about this book is that I do see flashes of brilliance in it. Images I loved, earned emotions. Early on in the novel, one character muses about being a guest in his own life. Another talks about photography in terms that made me stop in my tracks and pause the audiobook just so I think about what she'd written. Later, the relationship between Jude and his adoptive father and the love his adoptive father has for him made me cry. But all of that doesn't matter, when the end result is what we're given.

What it comes down to the fact that pain was the only point, and I think that is reprehensible.
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Reading Progress

December 13, 2015 – Shelved
December 13, 2015 – Shelved as: to-read
December 13, 2015 – Shelved as: read-for-book-club
March 24, 2016 – Shelved as: audiobooks
March 24, 2016 –
1.0% "I'm scared."
March 26, 2016 –
4.0% "I was worried that this would be another literary borefest where middle aged white guys whine about middle aged white guy problems, but not at all! Should've figured, it's written by a woman. So far, it's mostly about friendship. And being poor in NYC."
March 26, 2016 –
6.0% "Am going to have to think more on this idea of being a guest in your own life."
April 2, 2016 –
11.0% "So I'm going to admit to you right now that I have completely spoiled myself for the rest of this book. And Sweet baby Jesus, I'm glad I did. I'm going to need to prepare myself for that shit!"
April 2, 2016 –
15.0% "Jude is going to murder me, isn't he."
April 2, 2016 –
19.0% "What the fuck."
April 3, 2016 –
22.0% "Random first person point of view from Howard. A letter to Willem?"
April 6, 2016 –
23.0% "You know, JB is an asshat, but it's sure not helping, Jude, if you're not telling him WHY you're so upset. None of them know! You are so self-destructive you can't even protect yourself properly!!! UGH IT'S SO FRUSTRATING."
April 6, 2016 –
26.0% "Oh my god this book can't even do happy without making it heartbreaking."
April 6, 2016 –
29.0% "I just read an interview with the author that really pissed me off, and now it's going to color this whole book. Ugh."
April 7, 2016 –
37.0% "It is becoming increasingly unlikely that I will finish this book in time for my book club on Sunday. It's not that I don't have time to listen to the remaining 22 hours of audiobook, just that I can't listen to it like I would most audiobooks, for hours on end. It's just not possible with this one. It's too draining. I need to take breaks, like, every thirty minutes. Sometimes loooong ones."
April 8, 2016 –
42.0% "Ugh I never want to listen to this. I started listening to Locke & Key instead and now I REALLY don't want to listen to this."
April 19, 2016 –
55.0% "I am crawling through this book like I am 1,000 years old."
May 3, 2016 –
58.0% "At this point literally the only reason I have not DNFed this book is pride. I finish books. It's what I do. But uggggghhhh I just want to be done."
Started Reading
May 27, 2016 – Finished Reading
May 31, 2016 – Shelved as: class-gender-race
May 31, 2016 – Shelved as: fiction
May 31, 2016 – Shelved as: lit-fic
May 31, 2016 – Shelved as: manly-men-and-their-manparts
May 31, 2016 – Shelved as: orphalins
May 31, 2016 – Shelved as: romantical-tragical
May 31, 2016 – Shelved as: you-wrote-about-what-now
May 31, 2016 – Shelved as: award-winners
January 24, 2017 – Shelved as: lgbtqia

Comments Showing 151-200 of 486 (486 new)


message 151: by L. (new) - rated it 5 stars

L. A. Day I’m sorry you feel I’m condescending to you just because I’m stating my opinion but threatening me is a little childish, and anyway, I could not care less if you blocked me. Just stop replying. Is that so hard?


message 152: by Bridge (new) - rated it 5 stars

Bridge Ashley hold this L 🥱


message 153: by Scott (new)

Scott Lee Thanks for saving me some time. I have no time or patience for misery porn.


Ekaterina Fyodorova You nailed it. I mean that i end this misery porn yesterday and jesus NEVER AGAIN


just corporeal finishing this book feels like i’m hate fucking my most cruel ex. the book is miserable, not not in a way that has particularly moved me or made me cry. i love books that make me cry, but this one just feels like a circle jerk of Hanya Yanagihara and no one else trying to see how miserable of a character they can write with no empirical research. there’s nothing beautifully tragic about this book, it’s poorly structured and you can tell when Yanagihara’s criticism of psychiatry and therapy seep through the pages. if all of her work is so arrogant i doubt i would enjoy any other of her works. it’s just not a realistic book. i’ve dealt with suicide and individuals involved in child trafficking and mine/their experiences feel slighted by this circle jerk of a book.


just corporeal additionally, i love her commitment to the ‘i know nothing about what i’m writing’ trope she echoes through her interviews about the book…


message 157: by Ashley (new) - rated it 1 star

Ashley Bridge wrote: "Ashley hold this L 🥱"

I'm sorry I would like to respond to you, but I have no idea what this means.


message 158: by Ashley (new) - rated it 1 star

Ashley Scott wrote: "Thanks for saving me some time. I have no time or patience for misery porn."

You're welcome! It is very miserable.


message 159: by Ashley (new) - rated it 1 star

Ashley Ekaterina wrote: "You nailed it. I mean that i end this misery porn yesterday and jesus NEVER AGAIN"

Jesus NEVER AGAIN accurately sums up my feelings as well.


message 160: by Ashley (new) - rated it 1 star

Ashley mckinnon wrote: "additionally, i love her commitment to the ‘i know nothing about what i’m writing’ trope she echoes through her interviews about the book…"

I was just going to say this! She admits she did absolutely no research about Jude's particular trauma. It all came out of her head.


message 161: by Emily (new) - rated it 4 stars

Emily Meyer I just finished this book and it just kept getting worse and worse as it went on. Put me in a horrible mental space. I agree with your review


message 162: by Ashley (new) - rated it 1 star

Ashley Emily wrote: "I just finished this book and it just kept getting worse and worse as it went on. Put me in a horrible mental space. I agree with your review"

I'm curious then, why the four stars?


message 163: by Jenny (new)

Jenny I am looking for a new and decent book to read as a distraction because I am about to start a trauma program to work on healing from a few similar issues that are in the book. I want to thank you for posting this review because it has saved me from additional stress and trauma. The extra information you wrote about the lack of research the author did and their perspective on psychiatry and that maybe society should just let broken people die was enough to steer me clear of this novel. I don’t want to even imagine the state I would be in now if I read this book. This novel could be really harmful for some people to read depending what state of mind they are in. Thank you so much for the honest truth and extra research you did to warn people of the true nature of this novel. You truly saved me from some unnecessary suffering. Thank you!


message 164: by Sarah Stains (new) - added it

Sarah Stains Very late to read this book. But I agree with a lot of your points. She really had the audacity to write a book about topics she (apparently) knows so little about, not caring whether it will harm people who had similar experiences like her character Jude. I do not understand how one can write such a book without having lived through (parts) of such cruelties or without having done extensive research and/or consultated a humongous amount of psychologists.
This book is the opposite of empathic and very unkind.

Also there is no trigger warning at the beginning. That makes me sad.


message 165: by Ashley (new) - rated it 1 star

Ashley Aaaaand blocked


message 166: by Ashley (new) - rated it 1 star

Ashley Hello, all, I just want to remind everyone on this thread, which is out of control, that dissenting opinions are welcome, but disrespect and antagonism are not. Have a lovely weekend!


message 167: by Ashley (new) - rated it 1 star

Ashley Karina wrote: "That’s literally life for some people. You and many others obviously don’t have a stomach for it… what a privilege I guess? Labelling something misery porn because it doesn’t have a happy ending bu..."

People disagreeing with you is not a threat to your having liked this book. I'm sorry to say that anyone who tells me to grow up as part of an argument is not making a very good case for anything.


message 168: by Ashley (new) - rated it 1 star

Ashley Jenny wrote: "I am looking for a new and decent book to read as a distraction because I am about to start a trauma program to work on healing from a few similar issues that are in the book. I want to thank you f..."

It is an extremely stressful book, even for the people who love it! I have friends who continually re-traumatize themselves with it, which I don't understand, but to each their own.


message 169: by Ashley (new) - rated it 1 star

Ashley Sarah wrote: "Very late to read this book. But I agree with a lot of your points. She really had the audacity to write a book about topics she (apparently) knows so little about, not caring whether it will harm ..."

In terms of not doing the research, I think she was trying to go for some sort of timeless, fable-like quality, but it didn't work for me, and as these issues are really stigmatized in the real world, I do think it's better to do your research.


message 170: by Melissa (new) - added it

Melissa Thank you for posting this review since it’s clearly quite polarizing! I only made one resolution this year— to enjoy reading again. I’ve started so, so many books since 2020 and have given up 5 or 50 pages in. I’ve seen this book all over Instagram and thought it might be the one! The one that I actually read cover to cover and one that makes me remember how engrossing a book can be. But I found your review and I believe every word of it. I don’t think this is the kind of book I want to read at this point in my life, in the current climate. And honestly I don’t know if I’ll ever be in the headspace to enjoy this book, so thank you for taking the time to write an honest review and potentially saving people from becoming negatively impacted by reading material like this.


message 171: by Leslie (new)

Leslie Michelle Cohn wrote: "So I have had this on my kindle since Libby (aka the library) lent it to me and I got like 2% in and I just cant. Felt like I was losing it and I already dont care. 😆 Glad I found your review. So n..."

The way I am sitting here, also 2% in on my Kindle with this Libby hold that finally came through, reading reviews to decide if I keep going, and coming to the same conclusion tonight...?!


message 172: by Kisa (new)

Kisa Libby All I know I what is the fucking deal with the cover? There’s no way I’m reading a book written by an author that took a look at that picture and was like “Yes, this is it”. All I want to do I punch the person on the cover in the face. That’s it. WTF. It infuriates me every time it pops up in my feed.


message 173: by Ashley (new) - rated it 1 star

Ashley Melissa wrote: "Thank you for posting this review since it’s clearly quite polarizing! I only made one resolution this year— to enjoy reading again. I’ve started so, so many books since 2020 and have given up 5 or..."

I mean, positive reviews are honest, too! But yeah, if you don't feel like you're in the right headspace, now's definitely not the time to try this one.


message 174: by Ashley (new) - rated it 1 star

Ashley Michelle Cohn wrote: "So I have had this on my kindle since Libby (aka the library) lent it to me and I got like 2% in and I just cant. Felt like I was losing it and I already dont care. 😆 Glad I found your review. So n..."

Wow, 2%, that's impressive. I didn't realize I was hating it until much later!


message 175: by Ashley (new) - rated it 1 star

Ashley Leslie wrote: "Michelle Cohn wrote: "So I have had this on my kindle since Libby (aka the library) lent it to me and I got like 2% in and I just cant. Felt like I was losing it and I already dont care. 😆 Glad I f..."

I mean, if you are already having trouble, I can safely say it probably won't get better for you.


message 176: by Ashley (last edited Jan 27, 2022 09:14AM) (new) - rated it 1 star

Ashley Kisa wrote: "All I know I what is the fucking deal with the cover? There’s no way I’m reading a book written by an author that took a look at that picture and was like “Yes, this is it”. All I want to do I punc..."

Not to make things even more upsetting for you, but the photo on the cover was taken in the 1960s by a man called Peter Hujar, and it's called "The Orgasmic Man."


Ekaterina Fyodorova The most ironic thing that Jude never felt it Lol


message 178: by Sheryl Dougherty (new)

Sheryl Dougherty Completely agree Fuck This Book. Your review is perfect.


message 179: by Marina (new) - added it

Marina Love your review. it actually makes me want to read it more.


message 180: by Sumer (new) - added it

Sumer I have no idea how accurate your review is, as I haven’t read the book, as you’ve saved me from it, but what I do know is that we should be best friends. I love your passion.


message 181: by Jayda 🍉 (new)

Jayda 🍉 I’ve heard very bad things about this book so that makes me not want to read it. I don’t think I’ll be reading this book


message 182: by Kat (new) - added it

Kat Thank you so much for this. I feel guilty for quitting on this book. So many people are in love with it- and frankly, it's nearly impossible for a sensitive soul to NOT be touched by Jude as well as the other supporting cast here. This truly had the potential to be my favorite book. The diverse characters, the descriptions of their inner turmoil. The scenes on the fire escape and the way Willem held Jude's hand throughout the night. I felt that I knew them- I loved them. And then the flashbacks of Jude's childhood began. Began believably. I felt ready to read a realistic portrayal of trauma and the aftermath. I would have even forgiven the bleak ending because of its believability. But no- one trauma wasn't enough. Two weren't enough, and then...three...four. I felt anger at the writer. Were three horrific traumas not enough to elicit the response she wanted? Can we not be moved until we have completely and utterly destroyed this poor soul? Did she lie awake at night and envision what new terrible episode she could insert into her trauma porn? And then, instead of having to write a realistic navigation through trauma, we have unrealistic doctor's psychiatrists, friends who become unbelievably successful. It felt lazy. And now I learn that what I suspected was true...the character was written on purpose- a truly broken character? Ugh! Lazy, lazy and insensitive. Again, not surprised that people are moved by this book. I was. But I just don't know. I can't recommend it.


message 183: by Johnny (new) - rated it 5 stars

Johnny I hate the way people like you think. I'm offended by you.


message 184: by Jason (new)

Jason Yanagihara has said in an interview that she intended to “force” her readers to feel. I’m of the opinion that if a writer is attempting to force me to do anything, he or she can take that effort and shove it up their…


message 185: by Tarik (new) - added it

Tarik To me, books are like music. I love modern classical music but most often the concert halls are pretty empty when a new piece is being performed, that is of course, unless it's sharing the program with a Mozart or Beethoven piece. But modern music covers a much bigger and wider range of emotion than music of the Baroque, Classical or Romantic periods. I often think to myself, those who don't give modern music a chance are missing out on so much more than they realize. I feel the same way about books. reading so many good-to-great reviews, and then reading a few negative ones, stirs the pot of curiosity in my head. If a book can spark such a drastic review from anyone, be it a good or bad , than I must know the reason why. What broad range of emotion and discovery am I missing out on that could cause such a ferocity of reactions? I must know. Thank you for your review.


message 186: by Felson (new) - rated it 2 stars

Felson Well put. I enjoyed the writing but at various points I was going to experiment with cutting myself. Misery porn nails it


message 187: by Luli (new) - rated it 1 star

Luli Lee YEAH THAT WAS PRETTY MUCH IT i wasn’t even halfway through the trainwreck of jude’s past when i went “this is in no way possible. no way there’s no way an adult wouldn’t have intervened.” i’ve read a lot of fanfic and books with outlandish portrayals of abuse, and yet this book has managed to overdoit SO MUCH. at some point i was so angry i wanted to fistfight everyone in the book including the author. it’s so, so, so ridiculous that NO ONE ever thought to prescribe antidepressants to jude. has none of his friends, family or DOCTORS tried to even, like, google an wikihow article on “how to comfort your friend who self-harms”??? at they ALL that stupid??????? i was so outraged after the accident chapter by the end that i almost threw my cell phone at the wall. IT STARTED OUT SO WELL?


message 188: by Luli (new) - rated it 1 star

Luli Lee i usually dislike it when people react to various media by saying “the characters just need therapy” because, like, they mean it in a cheap way of solving all the juicy character conflicts that i love reading about. HOWEVER, this is a book in which… clearly some therapy is necessary. like holy shit


message 189: by Jo (new) - added it

Jo Sé You know the ENTIRE Catholic church covered up child sexual abuse, right? Moving priests to different area's to continue their abuse while silencing the parents and victims? So is it REALLY that hard to believe that an Abby could do the same?


Kathleen To be honest… I love this book. But I love dad things. So those who are hesitant based off this review: yes, it is sad. Yes, if things can go wrong they will. But the reality is that it is a beautifully written book and to this day it sits with me (I read it back in 2015 when it came out). No other book has sat with me like this one.


Kathleen Sad not dad


message 192: by Ashley (new) - rated it 1 star

Ashley Ekaterina wrote: "The most ironic thing that Jude never felt it Lol"

Never felt what?


message 193: by Ashley (new) - rated it 1 star

Ashley Sheryl Dougherty wrote: "Completely agree Fuck This Book. Your review is perfect."

Ha, thanks.


message 194: by Ashley (new) - rated it 1 star

Ashley Marina wrote: "Love your review. it actually makes me want to read it more."

I genuinely hope you like it! I hate hating books.


message 195: by Ashley (new) - rated it 1 star

Ashley Sumer wrote: "I have no idea how accurate your review is, as I haven’t read the book, as you’ve saved me from it, but what I do know is that we should be best friends. I love your passion."

I don't know about best friends, but feel free to follow me and comment on my other reviews!


message 196: by Ashley (new) - rated it 1 star

Ashley Jayda wrote: "I’ve heard very bad things about this book so that makes me not want to read it. I don’t think I’ll be reading this book"

If just hearing about the book turns you off, my guess is you probably won't like reading it while it happens, either! So probably a good choice.


message 197: by Ashley (new) - rated it 1 star

Ashley Kathryn wrote: "Thank you so much for this. I feel guilty for quitting on this book. So many people are in love with it- and frankly, it's nearly impossible for a sensitive soul to NOT be touched by Jude as well a..."

I love your comment so much. You said what I felt without the anger, lol. This especially: "I felt ready to read a realistic portrayal of trauma and the aftermath." Definitely not what we got! I will say, the best place I've found for this type of story is fanfic. Fic authors are very, very good at writing trauma and recovery.


message 198: by Ashley (new) - rated it 1 star

Ashley Johnny wrote: "I hate the way people like you think. I'm offended by you."

You're offended that I am upset by witnessing pointless human suffering? All right. It must be tough to go about your day continually realizing that other people's minds and opinions aren't clones of your own.


message 199: by Ashley (new) - rated it 1 star

Ashley Jason wrote: "Yanagihara has said in an interview that she intended to “force” her readers to feel. I’m of the opinion that if a writer is attempting to force me to do anything, he or she can take that effort an..."

Ha!


message 200: by Ashley (new) - rated it 1 star

Ashley Tarik wrote: "To me, books are like music. I love modern classical music but most often the concert halls are pretty empty when a new piece is being performed, that is of course, unless it's sharing the program ..."

I get this same reaction when I read polarizing reviews. It makes me curious. But be warned! This one really isn't for the faint of the heart. Especially if you are an empathetic person.


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