My biggest issue is that there wasn’t enough here. Was it supposed to be a memoir of the woman who happened to be the “bone lady”? There’s not enough My biggest issue is that there wasn’t enough here. Was it supposed to be a memoir of the woman who happened to be the “bone lady”? There’s not enough about her personal story for that. Was it supposed to be about her work? Not enough for that. Almost all the “stories” included were the bare minimum of information. Basically: body found, looked at the bones, case closed. No real details about the cases.
Two nit picks:
She described the scent of death early in as “seductive” which is just gross.
She included a chapter about trying to speak to a conference of Native people, who want anthropologists and archaeologists to stop digging up and examining their ancient burials. She starts it off claiming she is “mixed” herself and also Native, her proof is that her 95-year-old great aunt claimed it, “so it must be true” (her words), unlike all those other people who try to claim they are Native, likely because they want to be “aloof” like the Cherokee (yep, that’s what she said). So this very white looking blond woman got up there and was surprised that even when she told them that she was one of them, they didn’t respond well to her presentation.
Hate to break it to her, but she’s probably like 99% of Americans who have a family legend of a Native ancestor, and that it is not true. She seems to be aware of this phenomenon, but believes in her case it’s legit, with no proof whatsoever other than she was told so. Thing is, that even if it is true and her great grandmother was Native, she’s so far removed from the culture that for her to show up there and try to act like “I’m one of you!” is ridiculous and was probably offensive....more
What an atrocious human being. Yes, it’s in large part due to his childhood, and he was absolutely failed in many ways, but by the time you are 30, yoWhat an atrocious human being. Yes, it’s in large part due to his childhood, and he was absolutely failed in many ways, but by the time you are 30, you certainly have had time to mature and have some self reflection. So, if you still think that a cool story to include in your memoir is about teaching your dog to kill other helpless animals, and casually mention him guarding a giant pile of cat corpses that he killed like it’s a brag, with no acknowledgement about his fucked up that is, then I have to think it’s possible you are just awful, and will remain awful, end of story.
I can’t believe anyone could be that disconnected from reality that they can claim they love their dog, and then put him in dog fights. I think the only explanation is that he honestly had no clue what love was, and was incapable of feeling it. There is an element of ignorance to it, which I admit likely stems from his childhood, but his only idea of love is that he could feel when he was receiving it, when others showed him love, but could never feel it himself for others to give it back. So he knew his dog loved him and could feel that and thought that meant he loved his dog too, but he was incapable of actually loving anyone, because he never learned how to love someone. It’s sad, and explains a lot, but it also isn’t an excuse, and doesn’t make him less atrocious. He was talented, and seemed to have been intelligent, but that doesn’t cancel out the sociopathic behaviour.
Oh, and the fact that he kept giving money to people in need in front of the author made me roll my eyes so hard. Like that wasn’t completely a consciously manipulative move? Just in case he didn’t get it either, DMX made sure to explain later on that the most real and decent people who have success will go back to their hood and stop and give money to people on the street. I mean, he spends an entire book basically defending robbing people as though he were entitled and it was ok because he was “in need” (even though he clearly often wasn’t), never apologizing for basically terrorizing people to get whatever he decided he wanted, but okay cool, he hands a few bucks to some people on the street and acts like it makes him a good person. No, a good person would have done some self reflecting, would be apologizing and acknowledging they did wrong. Instead, he’s either justifying his actions, or outright bragging about the bad things he’s done. Dude didn’t even seem to think he’d ever done anything wrong.
I hope maybe in his remaining years he actually had some growth, a quick google search makes that seem unlikely. After finishing the book, I don’t feel like I can stomach reading much more about him to find out....more
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