Bonnie's Reviews > Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself

This book was a 2.5 stars for me. While I fully support the understanding that setting boundaries is an essential piece of self care- many of the boundary setting examples actually included statements to try and control the behaviour of someone else. For example- “when you are with me you need to put down your phone, you cannot have more than three drinks when we are together”. This overlooks the essential understanding that we can only control ourselves and our boundaries need to be self- focused. Flip it to “I feel ignored when you are on your phone when we are together so I am going to make other plans tonight”. Or “I feel uncomfortable around you when you drink so I am not coming to the party”. Missed opportunity to focus on what we can actually control.