If you see me reading Christmas books at the end of January, leave me alone, it's called self care.
I am so obsessed with this book and am going to neeIf you see me reading Christmas books at the end of January, leave me alone, it's called self care.
I am so obsessed with this book and am going to need everyone to go read it now - I can't believe I'd never heard of it until a few days ago?? I typically don't like first person POV, but Lovelight Farms made me feel every emotion Stella was feeling, it truly felt like my own subconscious talking - is this how other people always feel when reading first person??
These idiots were so in love and neither of them clued in on it and ugh I love them. There was so much yearning, like so much yearning, and you know I'm a sucker for that. And their relationship was so healthy? Okay maybe not the holding their feelings in bit, but the way they communicated and interacted and lived their lives separate and together. The way Luka gives Stella time to process things and doesn't force her and then when she comes to him is just like you figure it out yet? YES. The way he constantly has to be touching her, even before the fake dating starts? YES. The (view spoiler)[slow dancing while they argue/have big conversations?! (hide spoiler)]God, yes, I'm dead.
I did think it was a little strange that the blurb focuses on Evelyn (social media influencer)'s arrival, but that didn't happen until after halfway through and we were well into the plot? Not a bad thing per se, just a strange choice, and it could've been incorporated into the story a little more. And I will say that there were quite a few sub-plot points that were only briefly covered - this didn't really annoy me in this case because honestly it felt like they were all just a part of natural life rather than needing to be the main point of conflict, but I think it would bother some readers.
Lovelight Farms was tropey and ridiculous and I loved every single second of it - the yearning and the build up and the way they're both clearly in love but trying to do right by the other, I just love the way their relationship arc was written. I loved the glimpses of the other characters on the farm/in town, and I'm obsessed with Evelyn and Beckett, I have no idea how I'm going to wait until April for their book. And Layla?! I love her, get my fave Deputy Sheriff on the case, please and thank you. Basically, I want a book for every single character in this town, I never want to leave....more
I don't know how to explain it, but this felt like if Lizzie Mcguire or another early 2000s teen tv show based on the experience of a female mc with hI don't know how to explain it, but this felt like if Lizzie Mcguire or another early 2000s teen tv show based on the experience of a female mc with her inner monologue was an adult holiday romance with an autistic mc, and it was exactly what I wanted - WITH THE ONLINE IDK WHO YOU ARE THING TOO?!?!?!?! My A Cinderella Story loving heart is SHAKING.
How did Chloe manage to shove almost every trope I love in here in so many pages. Like actual pure Christmas magic. It was so fucking cheesy and I loved every single second of it. 10/10 a favourite read of the year, if not of all time.
I love love love Gabriella and her autistic, book loving, Christmas obsessed heart. She has a cat named Gingerbread and is just oh so relatable and loveable and yes yes yes yes yes. I don't normally like 1st person pov and will often dnf in the first few chapters because of it, so the fact I loved this book so much despite it being in 1st person pov shows how much I love Gabriella as a character & Chloe's writing. Also yes her taking her own pillow and fuzzy socks, my autistic queen.
As always, Chloe hits it out of the park with her autistic rep, and manages to get me emotional like so few authors can.
'I love myself for who I am, every part of me, the parts that fit easily in this world and the parts that don’t, but it’s a whole other thing to ask someone else to love me for all of those parts, too.'
Way to come for me there, Chloe.
While people’s expressions aren’t easy for me to interpret, the longer I know them, the better I’m able to observe patterns and memorise their meaning.
YES YES YES. So many of my friends get confused as to why I find it hard to read facial expressions but often know their emotions and pick up on it before other people, and I’m like it’s because I’ve memorised your patterns and expressions so I either know what it means OR I know it’s different to your standard so something’s different?
They don’t understand what pursuing friendship and romance is like for me, how being autistic and demisexual means not just the exposure of myself, like it is for anyone when they meet people and try to forge a connection, but weighing when and how to trust someone with the truth of who I am, a truth that’s not always been met with understanding or acceptance or kindness.
this this this this this this this. Chloe just gets it.
And PLEASE where do I find my own Jonathan because this man. THIS MAN. The bodywash thing?! I would simply die if someone noticed/did that for me. No, like seriously, my note next to that little scene simply reads 'fuck me'. And when he walks her home and she has her headphones in and is stimming and humming and he's just letting her be ohmygod. AND THE HAND FLEX?! Anyway where do I find one, because this is what I need in my life (and to recreate the ladder scene hehehe).
I spent the whole time reading this gasping and giggling and stimming and just filled with so much joy, it's pure Christmas magic and I recommend it with my whole heart. If someone could please make this into a movie RIGHT THIS SECOND (and cast me as Gabriella) that would be great because I need to see this on a screen more than I need air to breathe....more
First of all, it has what just may be my favourite cover of all time - why is it so pretty? And that colour scY'ALL, I AM SO EXCITED ABOUT THIS BOOK.
First of all, it has what just may be my favourite cover of all time - why is it so pretty? And that colour scheme? Ugh, I'm obsessed. And this is the first book/series since I read Julia Quinn's Bridgerton series last year that has given me the same vibes, which I've been incessantly searching for. I really can't recommend this one enough.
The yearning and the tension was just ugh so good, like seriously the romance just made me want to squeal and happy stim in delight, I was rooting for them the whole way. The family/found family aspect was so good, I loved seeing all the other characters and the messy family dynamics, and it set up the rest of the series so well with an overarching plot and a look at some of the potential other relationships (Sheridan and Vanessa? Gwyn and Joshua? I see you!!).
I wasn't a huge fan of the reference to 'lame' and how that was dealt with, and there was one point where something was referred to as incest over sexual assault - I know it was because of the time period and language used then, but I just think it could've been better handled.
Overall though, I absolutely loved this, and definitely a new historical romance favourite....more
The world building and magic system is NEXT LEVEL, it’s so intricate and entertaining and 4.5 stars?
I CANNOT EXPLAIN HOW OBSESSED I AM WITH THIS BOOK
The world building and magic system is NEXT LEVEL, it’s so intricate and entertaining and I legitimately feel like I’m an actual part of the world, with such a rich history. I will say that the book started quite slow, both in terms of pacing and in how the world building was set up - it took quite a while (maybe 30-40%?) before I really got hang of the world/magic/politics enough to properly wrap my head around what was happening. That’s the only reason this book didn’t get a full 5 stars, because I was a little confused early on. So the beginning could’ve been tidied up a little, but it did set up well for the rest of the book. And the more it went on the more and more fae and otherworldly it became, and wow I’m obsessed with this world.
The romance in this is a side plot (it’s a fantasy, not a fantasy romance, even though the romance is important to the storyline), but it has single handedly convinced me to love friends to lovers. It’s such a slow burn with so much yearning, and good lord I loved every second of it. I am quite literally so in love with Skye, it’s not even funny.
And the ENDING?! I’m literally screaming and even though it’s almost 1am I am running to read the next book. I NEED TO KNOW WHAT HAPPENS, IM SO CONFUSED HOW DID WE GET HERE I DONT KNOW BUT I LOVE IT?!?!?!
UGH I’m so so obsessed and need everyone to read this like yesterday, because I don’t know how this doesn’t have ALL the hype....more
Chloe Liese ruined my life when she created Axel, my literal dream man, and then had the audacity to make him a 6-foot-5-glasses-wearing-Ben-Barnes-loChloe Liese ruined my life when she created Axel, my literal dream man, and then had the audacity to make him a 6-foot-5-glasses-wearing-Ben-Barnes-look-alike
full review to come when I'm done crying over how much I loved this
<-------------------------------------------------------------------------------> Please note this review comes from my point of view as an autistic.
Well, it's release day, which means it's time for me to post an actual full review and gush over how freaking much I love this book with my whole heart.
First of all, A WILL WITH A CONDITION?! This is one of my all time favourite tropes, like I cannot explain to you how much I love this. There's so much potential for tension, and good lord Chloe Liese did not disappoint, because the tension, the yearning between these two characters was so perfect it caused a literal visceral reaction in me. And Axel? Good lord, this man was HOT. Like please, I want a man exactly like Axel. And he looks like Ben Barnes, love of my life?! Chloe, you're just trying to kill me at this point.
‘I know I’m not easy to feel close to. I’m not warm and affectionate like the rest of my family. I don’t hug spontaneously or laugh often or thrive in the intimate chaos that defines our large family. I don’t love the way they do.’
Did I cry at this part? Maybe. The autism rep in this book just hits so hard, Chloe has really knocked it out of the park. There was so much of Axel that I related to, being in his mind was like being in my own head. And the way Axel shows his love in different ways? I relate to this so much, I just adore adore adore it.
How do I explain how unsure I feel that romantic love like that is something within my grasp, when I feel like even with my family, that bridge to closeness is so difficult to cross? That all my life, people have been difficult to understand, to be intimate with, to be around for long before I need room to breathe and quiet to think and space to move so I can function? How do I explain that even with the people I do love, when my tongue gets tied and I don’t want the noise of a rowdy group or anyone’s body near mine, that it’s so damn complicated to find ways to show them I love them that they’ll recognize? That closeness is so much fucking work when I seem to have a lot more boundaries and sensitivities than most, when it feels like what I need makes others feel held at arms length?
brb, crying again. I don't know how Chloe has managed to take the words right out of my mouth, but she has. This literally reads like something straight out of my head. The care that Chloe has taken with the autistic rep in this book is just next level - I could write an essay on how much the rep in this book meant to me (but I won't, because I currently have a minor concussion and probably shouldn't be writing a review at all).
Axel and Rooney just communicate so well and so often, and that's hot. Rooney is so entertaining and loveable and I loved seeing more of her vulnerable side in this book, and Axel is honestly just the dream man. I just love this book and them so much, and they literally have the ideal relationship and actual true love, so much care and communication and respect and caring and just love.
Moving away from Axel and Rooney for a second, I was a little worried in previous books that Viggo was going to go too much like the Bromance Book Club series, which I really disliked (it felt very much like fake, #girlboss style feminism to me), but in this book Chloe Liese really highlighted how I feel about romance as a genre, and I am so excited to see what she does with it in Viggo's book.
This review has made basically no sense (please see aforementioned minor concussion), and that's really because I can't put into words how much I loved this book and these characters. Not only is it one of my all time favourite romances, it's one of my all time favourite books - the incredible autism rep, the loveable characters, and a relationship that had me rooting for them like no other - it's rare that I'm this invested in a relationship, even in a romance book.
With You Forever felt like being snuggled under a blanket with a mug of hot chocolate on a rainy day. Honestly one of my favourite books of all time, and I truly can't describe to you just how much this book meant to me, and how much I loved it. Just do yourself a favour and read it - I promise you'll fall in love....more
I feel like I need to clarify that whilst this isn't my highest rated book in the Bridgerton series, it is one of my favourite books in the s3.5 stars
I feel like I need to clarify that whilst this isn't my highest rated book in the Bridgerton series, it is one of my favourite books in the series, and Benedict is my favourite Bridgerton brother. This book started so well, I absolutely adored the beginning and their meeting. Benedict is kind of an ass but also so loveable, and he collects rocks and is just so adorable - if we excuse the moments when he's being a right ass and asking Sophie to be his mistress. Sophie is a really likeable protagonist, and they're just so sweet together.
Honestly, this would've been a higher rating for me, because I love the writing style and the characters, I'm just not really a fan of the mistress trope/idea, and I do wish we'd seen a bit more of them in town and in society, but in saying that it's super enjoyable, one of my favourites in the series, and a really well done Cinderella retelling. ...more
Did I finish Only When It's Us and then instantly start Always Only You? Yes, yes I did. Once again, Chloe Liese hit it out of the park - I absoluDid I finish Only When It's Us and then instantly start Always Only You? Yes, yes I did. Once again, Chloe Liese hit it out of the park - I absolutely adored this book.
If Only When It's Us was loosely based on Pride and Prejudice, then Always Only You is loosely based on Sense & Sensibility. And God, did I love that. Also, please tell me there'll be a book in the series based on Emma, because it's my favourite Jane Austen novel.
Overall, I loved Frankie as a character - she's grumpy and prickly but has a heart of gold, and I love seeing an autistic heroine! The autism rep was done really well, the descriptions were great and I don't think any of the rep was harmful (I'm an own voices autistic reviewer & Chloe Liese is an own voices autistic author). What I loved was that yes, Frankie had autism, but that wasn't the entire plot of the book, it was just one aspect of her character. She also has rheumatoid arthritis - I can't speak for the rep in that regard, although my one critique is that I felt Frankie's autism might have had a bit more impact on her dealing with her arthritis, in terms of sensory overload regarding pain, using a walking stick, etc. - however autism is a spectrum, so maybe that's just me thinking about how I would deal with it. Always Only You was great at handling ableism whenever it came up, and this passage about pushing people away because of neurodiversity or chronic illness gave me ALL the feels:
“Because I know that having arthritis, being autistic, does not make me less whole or human. It doesn’t make me wrong or broken. It makes some things in my life more challenging in ways, yes, and maybe I don’t represent the “norm,” but I can be someone who surmounts obstacles without it meaning there’s something fundamentally lacking in my makeup. Problem is, that truth has been harder to hold on to when I let people in. Because then my sensory limits, my unexpected emotions, my easily tired body, my unfiltered mouth, are part of the package deal with me, and apparently, they wear out their welcome. Everyone—my family and childhood friends, my one college boyfriend—everyone, except for Annie and Lo, who I have loved and let in, has ultimately come to resent me.”
Ren was such a romantic and I absolutely adored him - he was just such a sweetheart and I died a little inside every time he would quote Shakespeare. And the romance?! It's a slow burn and there was SO MUCH YEARNING. I'm an absolute sucker for yearning so I was very much here for it. I love the grump/sunshine trait reversed (typically it's the man that's the grump and the woman that's sunshine), and these two had so many cute moments I couldn't stop squealing. He lets her call him Søren? WHEN HE SAID 'I'M A SAFE PLACE FOR YOU TO BE YOU'?! I died. Also this?!
“You’ve seen me work every moment I have under the lights, Francesca. I plan on being similarly dedicated when the lights are out.”
I literally had to stop reading and stare at the wall for a few minutes to process it because good LORD sir.
Basically, Chloe Liese is now one of my auto-buy authors, she can do no wrong. This series deserves more recognition and I need the rest of the books to come out now. Like seriously, the teasers of future couples? AXEL AND ROONEY'S STORY IS ALL I WANT IN LIFE, PLEASE GIVE IT TO ME NOW...more
After the emotional rollercoaster that The Kiss Quotient was for me, being the first book I'd read with an autistic main character and truly felt seenAfter the emotional rollercoaster that The Kiss Quotient was for me, being the first book I'd read with an autistic main character and truly felt seen, I was so excited to read The Bride Test. To be honest, I didn't think I was going to enjoy The Bride Test as much as The Kiss Quotient, simply because this time the main character with autism was male, and generally I don't vibe with male autistic characters (as they're typically not very well written). Boy, was I wrong. I loved The Bride Test even more than The Kiss Quotient, fell absolutely in love with Khai, and it's now one of my all time favourite books.
First of all, the autism rep. Helen Hoang once again hit it out of the park with incredible rep. As an autistic myself, I'm always scared when reading a book with an autistic character, as unfortunately all too often they're just a bunch of harmful stereotypes. And even though Helen did amazing with the rep in The Kiss Quotient, because the autistic character was male in The Bride Test, I was nervous that The Bride Test would fall into the (harmful) trap of the rude, savant/genius autistic male that we unfortunately see all too often in the media. Luckily, Helen didn't go anywhere near that stereotype, and she once again delivered a multi-dimensional autistic character, giving great insight into the autistic mind/experience and showing the reasoning behind certain actions or perceived rudeness. I loved that we didn't just get a carbon copy of Stella and her autistic experience - Khai was his own character with his own, completely different experience of autism. Autism is a spectrum, which means everyone will experience it differently, and it was lovely to see this reflected in a book, as unfortunately all too often we get the same, tired, largely inaccurate and quite frankly harmful representation of autism.
Hoang astounds me with the way she can write characters in such a way that I feel I have lived through everything they have experienced, despite my own life being completely different. I loved Esme, and it was so interesting to read about her life and its struggles - I feel like we don't often read about the struggle of being an immigrant from a developing country/lower socio-economic bracket, particularly in a contemporary romance, so I found this really refreshing. The Vietnamese rep built in this book from that which we saw in The Kiss Quotient, and it was great to see some other perspectives from this culture. I also loved Helen Hoang's author's note, where she spoke about how when originally writing this book, Esme was actually a third character and there was another, main love interest, but Esme just kept taking over the story and she couldn't make her look like the villain. I find it so interesting that in writing, Hoang has confronted so many of her internalised prejudices (ableism in The Kiss Quotient and racism in The Bride Test), and is so open about this with her readers.
I adored Esme as a main character - I was a little nervous when I first heard the premise of the book, as I think it would be easy to write a character in Esme's position that would (understandably) only be in it for the money/position, which obviously would make it difficult to get on board with the romance. But Esme's character was so well written - I really felt and empathised with her struggles, both internal and external, and I think the fact that Hoang has written two books where I was dubious about the initial premise of the romance/how the characters meet, but then ended up loving the books, characters, and romances, is a true testament to her writing.
Now, let's talk about Khai. I fell absolutely in love with him, and honestly, I'm not sure that any other book boyfriend will ever compare (if you or anyone you know is like Khai, hit me up - let's get married). He is just the sweetest little nugget - like that (view spoiler)[whole ordeal with the sex and not knowing what he was meant to do? (hide spoiler)] He was so misguided but well intentioned, and damn my boy is a quick study. I really felt for Khai when he knew he made others uncomfortable so removed himself from the situation - I think Hoang did a great job at explaining how autistics can be aware they're making others uncomfortable, even if they're not really sure how or why, and that sometimes what is perceived as an autistic being 'rude' is actually them trying to be considerate of your feelings.
The romance between Khai and Esme was kind of a slow burn, in all the best ways. The unaware/unacknowledged yearning, the sweet moments ((view spoiler)[the scenes where they would share a bed?!?!?!?!?!? I died (hide spoiler)]) and the things they would do for each other just made me want to sob with how adorable and romantic it all was, even when neither of them realised it. And I loved that their relationship wasn't at all co-dependent - they were still two individual characters with their own lives and struggles outside of the relationship. They supported one another and accepted each other for who they were - Esme accepted Khai's autism without trying to change him or think he was weird, and Khai accepted Esme's background and cultural heritage (I am aware these are both the bare minimum, but unfortunately that is not always reflected in books/real life). And when (view spoiler)[Khai said 'Anh yêu em.'?!?!? I cried. He might have taken some time to figure out his feelings, but my boy got there in the end. (hide spoiler)]
My only real critiques of this book are that:
a) I wish Jade had been involved a little bit more, as she was kind of important but we didn't really see her at all and that plot point was just brushed over at the end; and b) Although the ableism from Khai's family was addressed slightly more than it was in The Kiss Quotient, I still think it wasn't properly addressed and could've been a bigger plot point
Basically, in summary, I absolutely adored this book with all my heart, I'm in love with Khai, and I need Quân's book NOW (if anyone wants to give me an arc, I'm an own voices autistic reviewer and would happily sell my soul for one)....more
Please note, this review comes from my point of view as an autistic.
I can count on one hand the number of books that have made me cry. Please Don't HPlease note, this review comes from my point of view as an autistic.
I can count on one hand the number of books that have made me cry. Please Don't Hug Me just became one of them.
Please Don't Hug Me is kind of like the tv show Atypical, if Atypical was in book form and actually had good autistic representation. It was the perfect example of what it's like being autistic in high school. Obviously, autism is a spectrum so no two experiences of autism are going to be the same, but Please Don't Hug Me did a really great job at detailing some of the struggles autistics experience on a daily basis. Kerr's descriptions of autism & autistic traits were incredibly detailed, accurate and relatable. It was probably the best description of meltdowns (or outbursts, as Erin calls them) that I've seen, depicting the articulation at the frustration towards neurotypical friends and family.
Erin's high school experience was so much like mine that it's eerie - the nice/mean friends, working at an 'old person' shop, the formal experience (I had a meltdown in the bathroom, luckily enough I did have some great friends), failing the driving test because the instructor gave bad instructions, siblings that don't understand, taking in another kid for a time and parents that aren't really accepting of her autism. And in more recent years, drinking to help you make small talk and be better in social situations, but then experiencing a low over the next few days, questioning if you were too loud, talked too much, etc. It was great to see the high school experience depicted from an autistic POV, and honestly, I think this book should be required reading in all Australian high schools.
Please Don't Hug Me also contained the best description I'd seen of explaining why many autistics aren't 'out' as autistic amongst their friends, family, or at school/work, detailing that while labels can be helpful, they can also be harmful when outsiders twist them without actually understanding them (which unfortunately happens all too often with autism).
“Sometimes I think it would be easier if everyone knew that some things are really easy for me but others are really hard. But then I think, it’s no one else’s business and I don’t owe anyone an apology or an explanation. Everyone has their stuff, and people don’t seem to want to talk about theirs so why should I be the only one? And then sometimes I wonder if I should even have this diagnosis, because it makes it seem like ‘normal’ people are on one side of the room and ‘abnormal’ people are over the other, when really it’s more of a whole range of different brains than a binary thing. I’m rambling now but you know what I mean. A label is fine in the hands of the person wearing it, it’s when someone else takes it and uses it without understanding what it actually means I wonder if it’s really so good at all.”
and perfectly summed up the autistic experience of dealing with your emotions differently to other people, and having to mask
“Your emotions have always been more obvious than mine. I have to perform mine in a way that isn’t real to me in order for people to believe them.”
I don't typically like the epistolary (letter) format, but it worked really well in this case. It gave a great insight into Erin's mind, whilst still allowing for a lot of mystery in terms of the plot (and Rudy). The 14th September letter detailing an outburst and its aftermath, and how Erin is different on the outside to the inside - who people think she is isn't who she actually is - had me fighting back tears. It was an incredibly accurate depiction, and I felt seen.
I think Please Don't Hug Me would be enjoyable to neuro-divergent and neuro-typical alike, as Erin goes through her final year in high school, with friendships, romance, exams, schoolies, and the struggle of being a teenager trying to find your place in the world. I hope there's going to be a sequel, as although the book definitely ended, there are still elements I want to know more about - Tom, Matt and Damo, Skyscraper Simon (a potential romance, perhaps?), Amy, her parents, and Erin's future. Erin still has more stories to tell, and I want to read them!!...more
As an autistic woman, I was so nervous to read this book. I had heard mixed reviews on how good the autistic representation in the book was, which worAs an autistic woman, I was so nervous to read this book. I had heard mixed reviews on how good the autistic representation in the book was, which worried me (funnily enough, all the comments I had read about whether the rep was good or bad were from neurotypicals/non-autistics, and I'm not quite sure how someone who isn't autistic can comment on whether the rep is good/bad and if autistics actually think or feel like this, but I digress). There's very little autistic rep in fiction, and most of the rep I've read has simply sucked, perpetuating harmful and generally incorrect stereotypes. So given my previous experience with autistic rep, the mixed reviews, and the fact that Stella, the main character, worked in a mathematical field (and most autistic rep perpetuates the stereotype that all autistics work in/are good at/obsessed with maths and science and have no creativity, which simply isn't true), I was expecting to be disappointed. Instead, I felt seen by this character in a way that I'd never connected to another character before.
On the surface, I am very different to Stella - for starters, I have absolutely 0 interest in maths, and I'm very creative. So, I wasn't sure I was going to connect with her. But every single thought Stella had? I have also thought that. The experiences she's had? Even if my specific experiences were slightly different, I've experienced that too. This was the first book I've read where not only did I connect to the character, but it felt like someone had taken direct quotes from my mind. Hating being touched? Sensitivity to smells/light/sound? The way different clothing makes you want to crawl out of your own skin? Having to practice social etiquette such as eye contact? Not understanding social conventions, or when you're being 'rude'? The masking? The autistic burnout? People treating you differently once they find out you're autistic? People thinking you're lesser? Feeling like you have to change or 'fix' yourself to fit in? These are all things I encounter and struggle with on a daily basis. Having a character not only experience these things, but actually putting them into words, means more than you could ever know.
I enjoyed Michael as a love interest. Michael's Vietnamese heritage really shone through, particularly in the scenes where he interacted with his family - I could almost taste the food they were eating. And I absolutely adored the relationship Michael had with his sisters. Whilst Michael certainly wasn't without his flaws, he was a likeable, multi dimensional character that treated Stella well. I find it really interesting that people are saying the bar is low and Michael just did the bare minimum. Because, whilst that is true, here's the thing - autistics aren't used to receiving even the bare minimum. In fact, I can guarantee that everyone who has said that the bar is low and Michael is only doing the bare minimum, is guilty of micro-aggressions and not doing the bare minimum when it comes to treating autistics like human beings with their own agency. By respecting Stella and the way she acts and thinks, Michael is only doing the bare minimum. But ask just about any autistic you know, and this is not something they're used to. Despite my friends, family & those that I have dated knowing I'm autistic, they've put very little effort into researching what autism is, how it affects me or my day to day life, constantly tell me to stop overreacting or being moody when I'm mid meltdown/burnout/something is affecting me, and pay little attention to the things that have a huge impact on my life. Whilst I know this isn't necessarily intentional, that doesn't make it hurt any less, and it's still a series of micro aggressions that the autistic community faces everyday. So to see a character like Michael, respecting Stella and her thoughts and opinions, is actually a pretty big deal. Take this scene, where Michael is frustrated with Stella;
“The ball of irritation in his chest loosened. He couldn’t be annoyed with her when she didn’t understand.”
This might seem like nothing to you. It's right, you shouldn't be frustrated with someone for not understanding something because their brain works differently to yours. But this is something we autistics experience everyday. The number of times people have gotten frustrated at me because I don't understand something, instead of simply explaining it to me so that I did understand, is more than I could ever count. Autistics are constantly called weird, bullied and ostracised for our actions and the way we think. So whilst Michael definitely isn't perfect, having him actively and consciously being considerate of the way Stella thinks is a pretty big deal to me, and to the autistic community.
Plot wise, I enjoyed the book - sure, it's cheesy, predictable and makes use of quite a few tropes, but it's also fun, heart warming and enjoyable. I like the idea of the Pretty Woman gender reversal, although I do think it does lend itself towards perpetuating a few stereotypes, particularly that autistics aren't good at/don't want relationships, which isn't the case. And would most autistics hire a prostitute, given many experience an aversion to touch/new experiences, particularly when it comes to strangers? I don't think so, but like I said, autism is a spectrum, so just because it might not be something a lot of autistics would do, doesn't mean that there aren't autistics who would do it. I guess I don't really have any problem with the plot itself, but more with the fact that this is one of the only books with an autistic main character, so as this does lean into some autistic stereotypes, some readers will take this as a complete and wholly accurate representation of what autism is like.
My biggest worry with this book is that neurotypicals will read it and think that this is the be all and end all of the autistic experience, that everyone experiences autism like Stella. I hope people take the time to read the Author's Note, where not only do we learn about the author's journey of overcoming her internalised ableism and getting a diagnosis, but she reiterates that “everyone on the spectrum has their own valid experiences, impairments, strengths, and points of view. My experience (and, therefore, Stella’s) is just one among many and cannot be taken as “standard.” There is no standard.”
As much as I loved this book and the autism representation, there are a few things that I would have liked to see done differently. First of all, it bothers me that 'Aspergers' is used, in the blurb and a couple of times in the book itself, as Aspergers hasn't been a diagnosis since around 2013, and is widely disliked and considered offensive by the majority of the autistic community. Phillip's character frustrated me - the fact that he consistently blatantly sexually harassed Stella wasn't well addressed, and I found it hard to believe that Stella would ever consider dating him - she's autistic, not stupid. The Kiss Quotient did a good job at demonstrating Stella having her routines/quirks (ie taking off her shoes) and describing the necessity/routine of it. However, as all of Stella's 'quirks' were pretty socially acceptable, they were a bit romanticised with the other characters finding them 'cute' and 'quirky' - I would have liked to see more people being bewildered and annoyed by her actions, as this is a better depiction of what happens in real life, particularly when you have a 'quirk' that isn't so socially acceptable. Whilst I think Helen Hoang did a great job at describing what some of the thoughts and feelings autistics experience are like, I would have liked to see a better depiction of how intrusive and overwhelming they are - I don't think this would particularly come across to a neurotypical reading this book. The book did a pretty good job at describing 'obsessions', or more accurately known as special interests, but I did have a bit of an issue with how Stella was worried about becoming 'obsessed' with Michael and relating these obsessions to people in general, as I think it perpetuates some harmful stereotypes about autistics. And finally, whilst I think the emotional descriptions of Stella's aversion to touch and her need for routine were done well, I would have like to see a bit more of a physical description to what happens when she is touched or her routine is interrupted - skin crawling, shuddering, becoming moody, her brain shutting down, feeling off for days, etc. Overall, I thought the autism representation was done really well, particularly reading this book as an autistic, I just feel there were a few minor things that could've been improved so that neurotypicals reading the book would better understand the autism experience.
Look, no book is perfect. And it's incredibly difficult to write an accurate depiction of autism with just one autistic character - autism is a spectrum, and every autistic will experience it differently. But The Kiss Quotient did a damn good job at it - whilst I have mentioned some things I would have liked to see tackled slightly differently, overall it was a pretty accurate representation of the way some autistics experience autism. This has very quickly become one of my favourite books, and Helen Hoang has made her way into my favourite authors. I truly hope this book encourages people to confront their internalised prejudices, and to become more accepting to those that are different to them, and that the popularity and success of The Kiss Quotient leads to more autistic/neurodiversity representation in other books!
I'm going to leave you with this quote from the book, because it really hit home for me. Not only do I think it encapsulates the entire message of the book, but also the constant internal debate that comes with being an autistic living in a neurodiverse society. I had to put the book down when I read this because I was crying so much - I had never seen anyone else so accurately describe the way I feel.
“This crusade to fix herself was ending right now. She wasn’t broken. She saw and interacted with the world in a different way, but that was her. She could change her actions, change her words, change her appearance, but she couldn’t change the root of herself. At her core, she would always be autistic. People called it a disorder, but it didn’t feel like one. To her, it was simply the way she was.”...more
If you know me, you will, at some point, have heard me rave about how much I love this book. It honestly shocks me how unknown this book is, as the wrIf you know me, you will, at some point, have heard me rave about how much I love this book. It honestly shocks me how unknown this book is, as the writing, story, world and characters are to die for. And this is Elise Kova's debut novel? God, we can all only dream of the day all debut novels are this good.
Let's start off with the world building - I will say that whilst it was well written, I did find the world building quite simplistic, if only because it's a format we often see in YA fantasy novels. A country/empire at war, a palace, a tower of sorcerers, etc. I found it really easy to imagine myself in this world, perhaps because it contained numerous fantasy tropes, however it did have nuances that separated it from other fantasy worlds, and it was written in a way that I didn't feel like it was the exact same world as other books I've read in the same genre.
The characters were one of my favourite parts of this book. Honestly, at the beginning, I found Vhalla a little annoying - I'm not a fan of characters (particularly female characters) that are sheltered, have no backbone, and are completely besotted with a man they don't even know. HOWEVER the character development was INSANE - we see Vhalla grow from a sheltered library apprentice to a powerful young woman, and I found her character development both enjoyable and incredibly relatable.
Now, let's talk about Prince Aldrik. I LOVE a dark haired, traumatised, morally grey, broody love interest, and good lord did Aldrik go above and beyond. He soared right up to the top of my list of favourite leading men, and I don't see that changing anytime soon. He has Mr Darcy/Rhysand vibes, but so much better. I honestly don't understand how anyone can read this book and not fall in love with him.
I am a huge fan of enemies to lovers, and GOD does this book make all my enemies to lovers dreams come true. And the tension, GOOD LORD the tension. You know a romance plot is well written when the characters don't even (view spoiler)[ kiss once (hide spoiler)] throughout the whole book, yet it's one of my favourite romances of all time and I find myself personally invested in their relationship.
I'm a huge romance fan, and this book/series has one of my all time favourite romances, but I get bored in books that solely rely on the romance and have little/no actual plot. Luckily, the plot in this book is a wild ride from start to finish. Look, I will admit that it does contain a fair few cliches, but I personally felt they were written in a way that made them feel fresh and exciting, rather than overused and boring - and for me, this is a sign of a talented writer. I don't want to give too many spoilers (and if you want to know more about the plot, you can read the blurb or a million other reviews that give a rundown of what happens), but I found the plot to be captivating, and I really felt that it was putting things in place and setting things up for future books in the series. AND THAT ENDING?! I can't say that was exactly what I expected to happen, but I can't wait to see what happens next.
Basically, stop whatever you're doing and go read this book. It's become one of my favourite books of all time, and I cannot recommend it enough. ...more