An anatomy lesson, an instruction manual, and a rousing manifesto, She Comes First is a book about cunnilingus and how to sexually please women. KerneAn anatomy lesson, an instruction manual, and a rousing manifesto, She Comes First is a book about cunnilingus and how to sexually please women. Kerner opens with a sort of "State of the Union" commentary on female sexual satisfaction in today's world (spoiler: a disappointing reality) and urges men to take more responsibility for understanding women's sexual needs and how to satisfy them. The gulf between male and female sexual satisfaction is primarily a function of the different ways each reach orgasm, and the unwillingness of men (in general) to acquire the knowledge and to spend the effort needed to satisfy their partner - which, according to Kerner, essentially amounts to practicing and improving their cunnilingus. A taboo subject, to be sure, but informative and enlightening nonetheless. His views on "foreplay, coreplay, and moreplay," his image of sex-as-a-poetic/theatrical-experience, and his overall deep dive into all things vaginal make this an excellent book for anyone who loves women. ...more
This bestselling 1940s Turkish novel begins with a narrator who cannot understand his new friend Raif until he reads the man's diary. Most of the bookThis bestselling 1940s Turkish novel begins with a narrator who cannot understand his new friend Raif until he reads the man's diary. Most of the book is the content of this diary, which tells Raif's story as a shy Turkish youth in Berlin and his adventures with friendship and romance with Maria Puder - the Madonna in a fur coat. At times depressing and dreadful, exciting and hopeful, and annoying and frustrating, the story delves into Raif's own tormented psyche, his curative relationship with Maria, and the tragic turns throughout his life. An enjoyable read and helpful in empathizing with nihilistic and troubled introverts....more
A worthwhile and helpful book. I don't identify fully with Glover's "Nice Guy" archetype, but there are certainly parts of it that hit home for me. I A worthwhile and helpful book. I don't identify fully with Glover's "Nice Guy" archetype, but there are certainly parts of it that hit home for me. I specifically need to work on getting over my need for external validation and trying to please others. There are some solid takeaways from this book and I think almost all men would benefit from recovering from the false and dangerous perspectives that produce the Nice Guy Syndrome. Too many men sabotage themselves by engaging in passive-aggressive behavior, being afraid of losing what they have, being afraid of true honesty, seeing themselves as a victim, holding on to internal shame, and so on. This book is not about being a jerk or being a narcissist; it's about reclaiming personal power and creating the romantic and professional lives you deserve....more
An inspiring and valuable book. Manson approaches the subject with none of the usual garbage found in PUA literature, but comes at it from an honest aAn inspiring and valuable book. Manson approaches the subject with none of the usual garbage found in PUA literature, but comes at it from an honest and raw perspective. He lays out his theory of female attraction (total honesty -> vulnerability -> non-neediness -> attraction) and helps guide the reader's actions accordingly. There are no tricks or strategies, and no need for performance. By being honestly yourself, you polarize women and increase your chances of attracting those that are truly compatible. Highly worthwhile for men looking to improve their dating lives. This pairs well with Glover's "No More Mr. Nice Guy."
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